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When your wife calls just to say 'I love you,' don't ignore it

BY Alyssa Kleven  on November 8, 2012 @ 2:34 pm (Updated: 3:14 pm - 11/8/12 )

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Voicemails may be out of vogue, but if your wife leaves you one, listen to it before you respond.
Dori's tech-savy daughters have taught him something over the past few years: Listening to voicemails is a waste of time. With cell phones that tell you who your missed call was from and text messages to communicate short questions and reminders, a voicemail is obsolete.

Dori's gotten so he doesn't listen to voicemails, and despite telling his wife this, on Thursday she left a message anyway.

He called her right back, said hello, and reminded her to not leave a voicemail. After a few minutes of chit chat and some schedule talk they hung up. But the voicemail was still sitting on his phone, so he listened: 'Hey D. I was just thinking how much I love you. I was just calling to say how much I love you and I hope you're having a great day.'

Since listening to her voicemail, Dori has tried calling his wife four times, but her phone goes straight to voicemail. "I think she's hurt."

Dori worried that his wife thought he listened to the voicemail before calling her, and that even though her message was full of love, Dori found it annoying. That wasn't the case.

Dori and his wife just celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary.

News anchor Maura Gallucci recommended to Dori (who already said he wasn't going to leave his wife a voicemail) he should send his wife flowers.

Alyssa Kleven, MyNorthwest.com Editor
Alyssa Kleven is an editor and content producer at MyNorthwest.com. She enjoys doting over her adorable dachshund Winnie - named for Arcade Fire front-man Win Butler.
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  • supertechman wrote...
    Better idea
    November 8, 2012 2:42 pm
    Don't send her flowers today. I never send or bring my wife flowers if I've done something insensitive to hurt or offend her. I make a genuine apology, and then move on. Then, a few days *later*, I send/bring flowers. I don't want her to associate a gesture of love with her hurt or frustration, or even anger over something I've done. I want her to see the gesture as one of love, simple because I love her. Not because I'm trying to balance the ledger, as it were. Just my $.02
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  • DJFavorite wrote...
    that's what he gets...
    November 8, 2012 2:47 pm
    ... you should ALWAYS listen to voicemail messages from your wife!!
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  • Gar57 wrote...
    That didn't make you a jerk, Dori
    November 8, 2012 2:48 pm
    Just about everything you say on air does, though. When do I get my flowers?
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  • fuster wrote...
    Maybe Dori is just a "Moron"
    November 8, 2012 8:54 pm
    Dori loves to use the word "moron" to describe people he finds disagreeable. It is very rude. So to hear that he may have upset his wife in this episode is not that surprising. He seems to lack sensitivity (and tact). Not in all things, but certainly for some things. Dori, when you learn how harmful it is to call someone a moron, you will probably be well enough that you are not going to skip your wife's voice mail messages. First rule of marriage: your spouse always has something important to say.
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  • daveismenotyou wrote...
    Maybe fuster
    November 9, 2012 6:40 pm
    is a jackass
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  • soo purletiv wrote...
    I am with you here Dori
    November 8, 2012 11:17 pm
    My family and I never leave voice mails anymore unless of course it is the variety your wife left you.

    With texting and caller ID for missed calls, why leave a message which someone has to call to retrieve, wait for the prompts, punch in the password and then listen to the message. And then most likely call the person who left the message back anyways.

    My wife in the past got irritated when I called her back without listening to her message first. She now sees the value of not leaving a message, and appreciates that I do the same when I call her. :-)

    Another option: If you have a smart phone, you can also download a "walkie talkie" app and get the PTT function for free. I have TiKL but have been told there are better ones out there (until of course you read the reviews..). But it works great for my needs. Works great for quick questions that need fast answers and when you are driving in separate vehicles and don't want to dial or, ahem, text. Kind of like a CB while using your phone.

    V-mail has its place. But when it comes to family just saying "I love you", the missed call with caller ID is a better way to go in my book.

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  • It's me! Ha ha! wrote...
    Dori, Call your wife and tell you you love her and MEAN it!

    As for worring about being a JERK?

    November 9, 2012 5:43 am
    Don't worry about it. We have plenty of Left wing Parrots (IE jerks)that more than adequately take up that slack!
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  • worhtalook wrote...
    THe human voice
    November 10, 2012 2:14 am
    can not be replaced by a text or anything else. What a sweet endearing gesture from your wife..and unsolicited. After 25 years you are a fortunate man to have a wife who still thinks of you that way in the middle of the day. Because she loves you she probably w, and felt she just had to tell you. Ill bet she will not hold a grudge or feel terribly hurt..she knows you too well and that is why she is in love with you. I would however bend over backwards to show in some unexpected sincere way that you too think of her the same way throughout the day. Thank you for sharing this, Dori
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