SEATTLE NEWS ARCHIVES & FEATURES

Your optimal geography: Where to live, and where to thrive

Mar 19, 2018, 3:24 PM

For about the first decade of our radio career, Don and I moved a lot. And by a lot I mean Seattle to San Francisco, to Phoenix, to Dallas, to Seattle, to Michigan, to New Orleans, and finally back to Seattle.

I know, right? An overnight success.

RELATED: The art of decluttering

Because of all that moving, I really internalized the idea that I needed to “bloom where I was planted.” I figured, this is my situation, I’m adaptable, and I should be able to be happy wherever we happened to find ourselves. Nobody wants the new guy on the radio complaining about the city he just moved to.

That belief became such a part of me that I never really questioned it. Until I ran across an interview with a woman named Debbie Millman. She is one of the most influential designers in America and is the President Emeritus of the Professional Association of Design. The interview was titled “How To Design A Life.”

My ah-ha moment came when she was emphatically talking about how important she believes it is for a person to be in the correct place.

Where to live

Most of the time when you hear about improving your life it starts from the inside out. Debbie approached it from the outside in. For her, it all started with being in the correct place. Not in terms of emotionally or spiritually, but the idea that there is an optimal geography for a person.

She recounted that early in her career, it was mandatory for her to live in Manhattan. It wasn’t good enough to be in Brooklyn or The Bronx. It had to be Manhattan. Even though she couldn’t quite afford it, and she was in a really crappy apartment. There was an energy and environment there that was her perfect place.

I happened to be listening to this interview while making a particularly brutal commute out to Woodinville at the time. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I’m not a Woodinville guy. No disrespect. Woodinville is a fine place to live. It’s just not my place. I realized that I need to be in the city. That’s where I get my energy. That’s where I feel my best.

So while it’s possible to adapt to virtually any environment, I have come to believe that there is a more perfect place to be (I understand that for many people financial constraints severely limit their options). I think this concept also applies to jobs and relationships and many other things.

Moving sucks. But sometimes it’s better to have the worst house on the street you want to live on, than the best house in a place that’s not for you.

You can hear “What are we talking about here?” everyday at 4:45 p.m. on 97.3 FM.

More from Ron Upshaw

FILE - This undated photo provided by Veronica Roberson in June 2026 shows her grandson, Kohen Wile...

Associated Press

Mississippi city where police killed one-year-old Kohen Wiley fires police chief

The police chief of a Mississippi city where one-year-old Kohen Wiley was shot and killed by police responding to a shoplifting call in June was fired Tuesday. Senatobia Police Chief Harold Vanderford submitted his resignation the same day, but the city’s board of aldermen declined to acknowledge it and instead voted unanimously to fire Vanderford, […]

5 minutes ago

FILE - New York Mayor Zohran Mamdani speaks during the annual New York State Financial Control Boar...

Associated Press

NYC, the nation’s largest school district, bans AI for students through 8th grade

NEW YORK (AP) — New York City’s public schools will temporarily ban students in elementary and middle schools from using artificial intelligence tools in the upcoming school year, Mayor Zohran Mamdani announced Wednesday. The one-year moratorium — part of a wider assessment of how children in the nation’s largest school district interact with the technology […]

9 minutes ago

FILE - A primary voter wears a sticker after casting a ballot at a voting center in Dallas, Tuesday...

Associated Press

FACT FOCUS: Texans listed as ‘suspense voters’ can still cast a ballot if they confirm their address

Social media users are raising alarms over the inclusion of 1.2 million voters on Texas’ “suspense list,” claiming it shows efforts to tamper with the November midterms. But despite its name, voters’ registrations are not canceled if they are added to the list. They are still able to vote. Here’s a closer look at the […]

14 minutes ago

underwater angle lake...

Lexi Herda, KIRO 7 News

Teen pulled from Angle Lake after 17 minutes underwater

A teen was pulled from Angle Lake after being underwater for about 17 minutes on Tuesday.

21 minutes ago

Workers remove the sculpture "Blue" by artist Joel Shapiro on the grounds of the John F. Kennedy Ce...

Associated Press

Kennedy Center disassembles ‘Blue’ sculpture from its grounds

The Kennedy Center took down a sculpture known as “Blue” Wednesday, the latest change to the cultural and performing arts center that stirred some pushback in President Donald Trump’s second term. The sculpture, a tall, blue stick figure poised in action — as if to kick a ball or, from a different angle, having just […]

34 minutes ago

bounty hunter seattle...

Jake Skorheim and Spike O'Neill Show

‘You’d rather have drug dealers?’: Jake, Spike clash over bounty hunter tactics near Seattle’s Sandel Park

Jake and Spike analyze a chaotic encounter in Seattle, revealing tensions between bounty hunters and locals in Greenwood's Sandel Park area.

37 minutes ago

Your optimal geography: Where to live, and where to thrive