KIRO NEWSRADIO

Candy: You don’t understand the word ‘offended’

Nov 20, 2019, 4:37 AM | Updated: Oct 1, 2024, 11:14 am

offended...

Why is there a dairy cow on a Chick-fil-A float? I'm offended. (Photo by Bob Levey/Getty Images)

(Photo by Bob Levey/Getty Images)

We don’t understand the definition of “offended” anymore. Tell me I’m wrong.

“He said this, get him off the air!”

“She did that, she should be tossed off the team.”

“He joked about this, ban that show!”

Cancel culture is rampant, but why?

Your religion doesn’t allow vaccinations, so our public school doesn’t allow your child. I’m offended you don’t respect my religious beliefs! No you’re not offended, you’re upset you are not getting your way, which you believe is the only way.

You don’t stand for the National Anthem because it doesn’t represent the country you love right now. I’m offended you are not patriotic! No you’re not offended, you’re confused on why someone has a different reaction to a historic symbol.

The definition of offended: Resentful or annoyed, typically as a result of a perceived insult.

There it is: Perceived insult. Oftentimes the actions of others has absolutely nothing to do with us but we make it about us, we jump to the word “offended,” when should be asking ourselves, why would someone say that?

Here’s a modern solution for a modern problem: If you’re offended, you are not allowed to publicly post anything online for 24 hours, it should be a law, maybe a cute pop up window: “Are you sure you are not scared, fearful, confused, emotionally wounded, vexed? Your accounts have been paused for 24 hours while you think about it.”

We don’t understand the definition of “offended” anymore. Tell me I’m wrong.

A Chick-fil-A food truck will remain at Oregon high school football games despite protests of people saying, we’re offended that the company makes donations to organizations that are overtly against gay marriage. No, you are not offended, you are fearful that seeing the logo will inspire hate against the LGBTQ community on your high school campus. Was the hate already there before the food truck? Yes. Is that a problem for school administrators and student body to fix? Absolutely. It has zero to do with chicken and everything to do with understanding why the individual haters are lashing out. Closeted gays? Maybe. Problems at home? Probably. Victims of bullying? Obviously. Side note, Chick-fil-A announced they are considering ending the donations to organizations that are overtly against gay marriage as a corporation. READ AS: We’re not going to stop. A board member will make donations privately, duh.

My point is, before you hate-post and scream from the mountain tops: “I’M OFFENDED!” consider the definition of offended and consider a little understanding over contempt.

Tell Me I’m Wrong” airs every day on the Candy, Mike and Todd Show at 3:30. The Candy, Mike and Todd Show airs every weekday afternoon from 3-7 p.m. on KIRO Radio, 97.3 FM. Subscribe to the podcast here.

Backpacks hang outside a classroom at Glen Cove Elementary on Monday, Aug. 17, 2026, in Vallejo. (A...

Associated Press

Takeaways from AP’s report on school closures in the US

VALLEJO, Calif. (AP) — The start of a new school year can be nerve-wracking under any circumstances. But for thousands of students across the U.S., this academic year brought the added difficulty of adjusting to an entirely new school after their previous ones shuttered. As U.S. birth rates continue a multidecade slide and state and […]

6 hours ago

People walk past the Urban Civil Rights Museum on Friday, Nov. 6, 2026, in the Harlem neighborhood ...

Associated Press

Few museums show the North’s Civil Rights Movement. A new one in Harlem is ‘just getting started’

NEW YORK (AP) — The National Urban League will open a museum this weekend in Harlem dedicated to the civil rights struggles in the North, the first of its kind in New York City. Located in the Urban League’s Manhattan headquarters, the Urban Civil Rights Museum in Harlem explores the region’s lesser-known histories of the […]

7 hours ago

Penny Nũnez-Brandão sits in class during her first day of school at Glen Cove Elementary on Monda...

Associated Press

School closures are accelerating in US, but more financial pain lies ahead

VALLEJO, Calif. (AP) — Minutes before first bell, Penny Núñez-Brandão scanned the crowd outside Glen Cove Elementary School, looking for familiar faces. “I don’t see any,” the fifth grader told her mom one morning in August. “None of my friends are coming.” The start of a new school year can be nerve-wracking under any circumstances. […]

7 hours ago

FILE - Tyler Robinson, who is accused of fatally shooting Charlie Kirk, sits beside defense attorne...

Associated Press

A Utah judge is expected to set a trial date in Charlie Kirk’s killing

PROVO, Utah (AP) — A Utah judge is expected on Monday to set the trial date for the man accused of assassinating conservative activist Charlie Kirk. Attorneys for defendant Tyler Robinson, 23, have proposed a trial starting in 2029. But Utah District Court Judge Tony Graf faces pressure from Kirk’s family and supporters — including […]

7 hours ago

Associated Press

Asian markets bounce back after a recovery for AI stocks on Wall Street

Asian shares and U.S. futures advanced Monday after artificial intelligence stocks recovered some ground lost in last week’s sell-offs. Taiwan’s Taiex led gains with a 5.6% jump, thanks to a rebound in computer chipmaker TSMC, which also surged 5.6%. Regional tech stocks benefited from gains Friday in the U.S., where AI stocks got some relief […]

7 hours ago

President Donald Trump speaks with reporters before boarding Air Force One, at President Donald J. ...

Associated Press

Trump says his deportation policy ‘might have been too tough’ for voters in the election

President Donald Trump in his first major interview since his party lost control of the House and Senate in the midterm elections said he thinks his administration was too aggressive on deportations and that he thinks he can work with Democrats in the new Congress on some kind of immigration deal. Trump said his deportation […]

9 hours ago

Candy: You don’t understand the word ‘offended’