Financial dominatrix made $1 million spending CEOs’ money in 2017
Jan 18, 2018, 3:45 PM | Updated: Oct 11, 2024, 9:44 am
Before she was a financial dominatrix, Theodora was a leg model for tights and pantyhose. (Photo courtesy of Theodora)
(Photo courtesy of Theodora)
This is a story about Theodora, a Paris-based financial dominatrix. There are a lot of fetishes out there, but Theodora has smartly positioned herself to make a lot of money off of one that doesn’t require her to do anything you or I might think of as sexual.
“It’s a form of domination, but the tool for power exchange is money, because it’s the most tangible instrument of a lot of powerful men,” Theodora said. “My clients, most of the time they would be businessmen or CEOs. To them, I think just physical domination doesn’t suffice.”
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Theodora says she made about a million dollars last year, mostly thanks to 20 of her top clients who she’s never met in person. She says she works with men in New York, Toronto, Hong Kong. Generally, English speaking men around the world.
“They give me the control to their finances,” Theodora said. “So that could be their personal accounts, they can send me their bank, credit cards, details so I can login to their account. I have to make decisions for them as to how much they are allowed to spend on themselves. How much they can spend on, I don’t know, whatever is not necessary for them. If they want to go out, for example, I can decide that they go out too much and they need to cut this expense.”
Then this financial dominatrix pays herself from their bank account.
“I take what they don’t need,” she said. “I have to be smart and plan ahead how much they will actually need to pay, like, their mortgage or if there are fixed expenses because the point is not to take everything, of course not. So I have to discuss with them what the actual limit is. It’s like I’m an accountant, but I’m paid with what I make them save. If that makes sense.”
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I asked Theodora if these men sign a financial dominatrix contract before they give her access to their funds. Why do they trust her?
“I suppose the basics of BDSM is to be in a relationship of trust,” she said. “You’re basically giving up the control to someone who you can trust to make your fantasies happen. The point is that they’re trusting me to give them the fantasy, but not actually ruining them. They have to feel enough financial damage to actually live their fantasy to an extent, but not too much damage that they cannot recover from it.”
Theodora has hundreds of other clients, who pay far less money to watch videos of her practicing hypnosis on them.
“And then there are some videos where I try to incorporate fetishes that different people that I’ve met have, like foot fetish or boot fetish,” she said.
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A phone call with Theodora costs $69 a minute and it costs $25 to call her … and be ignored.
“There is actually a fetish where people want to be ignored,” Theodora explains. “So my ignore line, they call me and they can hear what I’m doing, or not doing, I’m not talking to the phone. The phone is just sitting there. So they have this kind of voyeur experience with me.”
Theodora says financial dominance appeals to rich, powerful men who appear to be dominant in their everyday lives. They’re usually married to women who take care of the home and the children, who they can wine and dine. But they fantasize about the opposite — someone who doesn’t do their laundry, who simply takes their money and mocks them. Someone who allows them to be submissive.
One other interesting thing: Theodora mostly gets paid in various cryptocurrencies, like Bitcoin. She says sex workers have been using cryptocurrencies for years, because sites like PayPal don’t support their line of work. Even though for Theodora, there’s no actual sex happening.
I asked Theodora if women even want to be financially dominated. She said no, because men are often paid more than women, so they are already financially dominated against their will. She says her job is a form of collecting reparations.
“Because I’m trying to take what men have in excess,” she said. “So many decades women haven’t been paid equally as men. They’ve always been kind of financially abused. So this is only logical that we women want to seek reparations in this way.”
