Ross: The key to wedding success? Eat lots of cake and make your dancing look spontaneous

Sep 30, 2022, 7:50 AM | Updated: Oct 3, 2022, 10:08 am


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Yesterday on Gee & Ursula’s “Scenarios” segment they took on a listener’s wedding dilemma.

The listener is going to his brother’s wedding, and he’s bringing his girlfriend, who likes to do karaoke. Well, his brother needs a wedding singer, and the girlfriend convinced him … to let her do it.

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But the listener – while he loves his girlfriend – knows that she cannot sing and will humiliate herself the moment she opens her mouth, and then his brother will be angry that he wasn’t warned.

So, what should he do?

Ursula – who is always for transparency, said yes, he has to say something.

Gee – who understands that sometimes a guy just needs to keep his mouth shut, said keep it quiet.

Well, here’s what I would do.

First, tell the groom to drop the idea of a wedding singer. Say that it’s too clichéd.

Instead, you have a DJ or a piano player – and just arrange to have a mic available.

So now, the listener can tell the girlfriend – ‘hey, change of plans, it’ll be a casual thing, there’ll be a mic, and if you do a song – I’m sure people will love it.’

You see, it’s all about expectations.

When a professional singer takes the mic – high expectations. In the mind of the audience, you’re competing with Beyonce.

But if it’s one of the guests who get up to the stage after too much cake – very different expectations. You don’t have to be Beyonce or Gaga, all you have to do is remember the words.

I know this because I’ve pulled this off myself.

At my daughter’s wedding, Shut Up and Dance came on and I’d had too much cake, and I decided to sing along and do an unrehearsed dance routine.

Not only that, I went over to my wife, who has given me strict orders never to make her dance in public, and I pulled her to the center of the floor at the Sorrento Hotel and made her dance in public.

And I think everyone will agree we were the hit of the wedding. Many of the guests were too intimidated by my dance moves to say so, but you could tell they were in awe.

So that’s what you do. Make the singing look spontaneous, and whether or not people like it, at least they’ll be forgiving. Just make sure they’ve had lots of cake.

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Ross: The key to wedding success? Eat lots of cake and make your dancing look spontaneous